Fostering Flexibility

In our lives we are faced with the unexpected almost every day. Take a minute and think about something unexpected that happened to you today. Was the school bus late picking up the kids, a car pulled out in front of you, forcing you to slam on your brakes or did someone walk through the house with mud on their shoes? These unexpected incidents force us to pivot and refocus our immediate plans. Instead of making lunch, we are now mopping the floors.

For those effected by autism, the unexpected can result in struggle and difficultly pivoting. The struggle to accept a change or deviate from a pre-determined plan can result in upset days, maladaptive behavior, and frustration. With this perspective, think about someone you know that may have difficulty with this. You can help support them with a few techniques. Although we cannot practice every unexpected possibility, we can prepare for what to do when our focus or schedule deviates from the norm.  

• Use visual supports to prepare for something that is changing within their schedule.
• Provide a timer preparing for a transition.
• A picture of the schedule with an icon representing a change.
• A breakdown of what is expected next vocally or with pictures.
• Encourage communication.
• Practice for these unexpected moments.
• Remain calm and model a reaction or response for the individual.
• Ask them how you can help.

You can improve the ability to be flexible with one moment at a time. If your family struggles with these strategies, there may be more individualized techniques that can help. Reach out to your Board Certified Behavior Analyst and discuss your concerns. I’ll get the mop; you get the bucket and together we’ll respond to the unexpected.

Written by: Regional Director, Amanda Jones M.S., BCBA